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Judges
At the end of the day, we all are human. We make mistakes, we have flaws, and we have regrets. With this being said, it is vital to not allow someone to depict who you are because of these mistakes and flaws. Allow me to get more in-dept with the point I’m trying to make.

First, I will start this insert off by saying I do believe in God. If you choose not to read further because of it, then you are welcome to exit this page. Do I make jokes and comment on the silly things that people say and do? Why yes, of course. Do I feel people need to change the way they approach situations as well as change how things are handled in some particular situations? Yes, I do. I joke on celebrities’ actions because I think that some of them are shameless. It’s all about having an opinion. Nevertheless, there is a huge difference in having an opinion, and being judgmental. I listen to associates, close friends, family members, or just random people in general judging others when their own lives are in shambles.

I was at a place where several colleagues were having a conversation about being in debt. One young woman, in her early 20s said she had many unpaid credit card bills that she accrued when she was younger, but did not have the means to pay them off. She went on to say how she was getting government assistance, she had a few children, she trying to go back to school, and get her life together. An older person in the group, in her late 40s, who owns her home, children are all grown, not married, and protests to being a Saint told the young woman would never amount to anything and she would always be ghetto trash. I was in disbelief.

I think the thing that surprised me the most about the statement was the magnitude of the harshness presented by someone, who as a young child we are taught to respect, our elders. Here is a young woman just getting into the experience of adulthood being judged by and older woman who has with certainty experienced hardships and destitution in her life. I really feel that when people like the older woman make comments as such, they are unhappy in their own lives. Therefore, at any given chance, they pry on someone else’s imperfections in an attempt to try to bring themselves up and temporarily escape the misery surrounding their own life. Misery does enjoy company and will attempt to keep its company.

The point of the matter is, never let someone judge you based on the mistakes you have made. If you’re a good person, you believe in God, and you build your mind around success, then past situations and faulty mistakes are just what they are, in the past. Believe it or not, sometimes we will make the same mistake twice. It’s life. Don’t let those incidents become who and what you are.

There will be love ones who may attempt to bring you down as well. If it's family, again, they may have something personal going on in their own home or a childhood grudge. If its lover, well, does someone who really love you bring you down or do they carry you on their back? Be cautious. With people in general, most of the time people have a whole lot to say about a lot of nothing. If bringing you down makes a person sleep better at night, then tell them sweet dreams. For the people who do judge others, nothing on this earth secures your lifestyle.  No matter how much money, prestige, or physical attraction you may have, it can all be taken away at any given moment. Its life…In the end, we are all judged by the same Creator.